Here is how to kill Worry

Recently, I traveled to the town of Ago Iwoye, South West Nigeria. It’s been ages since I last visited that town. Going there, I felt like the journey was never going to end. Eventually, I arrived at the town, did my business and was on my way back home.  Returning to the city of Lagos felt like no journey at all. I was home in the twinkle of an eye.

If you have ever traveled to a not-so-familiar place, you must have also felt this way before.

So the question was asked, why does it always feel like the journey to an unknown place is farther than the journey back home from that same place? Even when the kilometres you have to travel and traffic conditions don’t change; Yet for some reason we get home faster than we leave it.

The simple answer is that we worry.

In my experience, I was eager to arrive at Ago iwoye to do what I had to do and return back to Lagos ASAP.  When it started looking like I was running late, I became worried thus making the journey look like it will never end.

On my way back, my mood was different. We had a successive event, I had networked with some really amazing people like Opeyemi Oduwole, Tokunbo Fasoro, and Folabi Nuel; and I was just really glad to return home super-fulfilled.

What I have found is that worrying about how far you still need to go will make your journey  look tougher and farther than it really is


When you are too eager to get something, that thing would probably start looking evasive. The problem with this is that worry begins to set in; and while some people can still get some things  done even when there are worried, I have discovered that those people would have certainly performed better if they were not worried.

Worrying dampens your ability to perform!

Joy on the other hand is an enabler. Although it is not a skill, but it will boost your performance anytime, any day. That means that you will perform better at your tasks when you are happy and joyful.

So, rather than being anxious about things and life in general, become joyful!


Take your mind off what could be and be thankful for what is. In other words; feel the breeze on your skin, take in the oxygen and let go of toxic air; enjoy the moment as it passes for it will not last forever. Don’t contend with the things you have no power over; tomorrow will come when its tomorrow. Until then, live and be thankful for today.

Joy defeats worry every single time!


Joy is a choice. It is independent of the things happening around you. You can choose to be thankful and joyful by choosing to be grateful for the little things such as life, opportunity, family, love etc.

I have never seen a joyful-worried man in my entire life! Not a single one! We give worry and anxiety no chance when we choose to be happy. And when we are happy, we perform better and achieve better results for it. Here is how we kill anxiety.

The end always comes in the end anyway. My question to you is this – will it meet you joyful?

Best regards,


In the face of Disappointments

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Everyone gets their own dose of it at some point in their existence on the earth. Disappointments in the story of our lives are like Snow fall in winter, you can bet on it. For some people it could be a failed examination, interview, business contract or relationship; or even the betrayal of friends and family; everyone of us at some point in life set our hearts on certain things and we just don’t get them while some others get certain things they never really wanted.

In a good number of cases, we don’t get what we want because we are not qualified for it or because someone else was more qualified than us. Relationships fail because people who were not ready for it delved into it. Interviews fail because people don’t prepare adequately and so goes the same for examinations.

Solution to this isn’t difficult to see. You don’t need to understand rocket science or see a prophet to know what to do here. If its qualification, get it. If its preparation, get it! If its timing, wait and be patient till you are ready. Whatever the case maybe, keep a positive attitude and try again more intelligently and appropriately.

But at times, the disappointments we face are entirely not our faults. There are times you felt that you’ve covered every possible angle and done all you can do and in all honestly feel you deserve the government contract or the A grade in that course but you still don’t get it. You’ve done your best and maybe didn’t even leave any ‘rest’ to God and yet still got disappointed. Such was my case in a recent project I embarked upon; uhm…..I did leave a ‘rest’ to God though 😀

The question then is, what do we do next after such?

Every disappointment poses a question to you. What are you gonna do next? You’ve got only 2 options. React or respond.

People that react either over react or under react. Hardly can anyone ever find balance when they are reacting because reaction is often outside your control. It is you taking action based solely on what occurred to you- in other words you become a thermometer whose results are influenced by external conditions. You are not in control, you are controlled and so you most likely act out-of-control. When the query is the right you also become right, but when its wrong like a disappointment then you become wrong too.

Responding to issues on the other hand is bringing things under control. It is you being a thermostat which regulates external conditions. It is you giving a reply based on the quality of yourself and not the disappointment of the stimuli. It’s is you being the influencer and not the influenced. You don’t just get to do what is normal or what you are expected to do; rather you do what is better, sometimes abnormal and most times extraordinary or what you ought to do.

See Proverbs 25:4-5. Don’t answer fools according to their folly, or you will become like them yourself. Answer fools according to their folly, or they will deem themselves wise.

Don’t the two statements sound contradictory to one another? Maybe not if you put sequence and scenario to it. The author there was saying that you shouldn’t hastily react to a fool’s utterance; you should respond to it. Hence, first it says don’t answer/react, then it says answer/respond.

Now lets talk about answering disappointments.

Its a mind thing. Disappointment troubles your mind. It tries to reconfigure your heart status. Hope took you on a high and reality is pulling you back…..managing the instability of this process is what dealing with disappointment is.

How do you win?

Stay hopeful by keeping your eyes on the bigger picture. Give substance to your hope by having faith and faith is a product of a belief in certain things like ‘all things are working together for your good’; ‘God loves you and wants the best for you’; ‘You are God’s investment in the world and his attention is on you as he is interested in every detail of your life’. He won’t let you fail.

He is able to do exceedingly and his plans are always better. And as he has begun a good work in your life, he is faithful to complete them. You didn’t come this far to lose.

When you shift focus from the disappointment of the hour to the bigger hopeful picture of life, then there becomes no challenge greater; no valley too deep and no mountain too big. We draw strength from our knowledge that the adversary has been defeated and so we are victors through God. And though a chapter of our lives may contain pain, suffering, and disappointment; we know that this book has a happy ending.

I’ll end on this note is stumbled upon once. It read “Sometimes when we don’t get what we want, it is because we are about to get better things”.

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